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May 22, 2006
Reading
Still reading Don't Be Nice, Be Real, a book on Non-Violent Communication by Kelly Bryson. Got at at the New Living Expo after attending a workshop on NVC he was co-leading.
First, a funny bit:
Dr. Laura Schlessinger is an example of a therapist (actually her doctorate is in another discipline) who never leaves her role and seldom empathizes with her clients if they have a political viewpoint different from hers. She gets totally flustered about ten times per show and accuses the caller of "playing stupid" or "playing victim." Her cure-all advice is "Get a life!" said with anger and conviction. This of course immediately enlightens and empowers all her thousands of callers, who are starting to raise the planetary consciousness and lead the world into the new millennium.
Now, the interesting bit...
I once started a group... of twenty six "Love Pioneers." In this close knit tribe that we created to provide community support for our relationship, we had an interesting confidentiality agreement. It went like this: "You can be confident that if it is juicy we are going to share it with the whole tribe." [Wow!] We did not have a problem with factions, gossip or false rumors because we all knew the truth about what was going on with each other on every level. This allows trust to grow. The commitment to stay open to each other even when someone does something out of integrity makes it much easier for everyone to keep telling the whole truth. therefore we must stop punishing people not only for telling the truth, but we must stop punishing altogether, if we are to develop a truthful group, family or couple.
Main thought: Interesting implications for poly! That's how I want myself and those I'm relating to closely to be able to be. In past relationships, I've had difficulty finding people who would even talk to or be around each other, let alone love each other.
Well, fodder for the next poly group meeting.
Posted by Josh A. at May 22, 2006 04:48 PM