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February 26, 2006
Dhamaalriffic
Green & Zak & I went to Dhamaal's pre-party. Hot. I love tabla. Love love love it. We had a good time, but I do have some quick criticisms: the sound quality was muddy upstairs and down, and I experienced the DJs' attempts to serve up what some might call an "eclectic" mix of styles disappointingly random and confusing.
Other than that, I danced my ass off, enjoyed the night thoroughly, and would do it again. Makes me really want to go to Phuturo some Tuesday soon though. Neeeed drum-n-bass.
I found that dancing felt best when I gave my body permission to move however it wanted. This seems to make help some people feel very uncomfortable. It doesn't matter—my friends are completely in love with me.
Speaking of which, I found a favorite quote tonight:
There is only Awareness, alone with Everyone and everything it loves. Be completely, hopelessly, passionately in love with everyone. – OpenMindOpenHeart.org
Mmmm... love me some everyone and everything. It was great to see Green again, and to introduce new friend to old. Although sometimes there's the risk of too much catching up on happenings with folks that only two of the trio know, I think it went well.
I wish there were an all-night, whole-foods place, some kind of mark-of-the-vegetarian-beast anti-diner (anathema to all that good Americans hold near and dear!) for us to feast in after such an evening, but there are none here to my knowledge.
Some life updates: I got a new job, doing completely non-sexual (I promise) therapeutic massage at Eros. It's only one day a week to start, and I only make money if people sign up for massage, but that's not an uncommon arrangement.
I'm going after retail work close to home. The best jobs are having difficulty hiring me. The owner of Swirl and I seem to love each other, and he wants to hire me, but he has such a tight crew, it's like someone has to die before I can get on there. What is this, the 15 association?
I think Solis would like to hire me, and they totally should—I need to sell their rockstar clothing. But I have no formal clienteling experience. Like it was rocket science or something. Getting into Cornell was easier than getting into a minimum wage job at a clothing store.
Had an interview at Different Light bookstore, which went well enough, but my flexible schedule may not be flexible enough for them. I couldn't tell. Damn interviewers for being so opaque.
Des and I had some great conversations today. He's reading Power of Now, and read me a passage that stood out to him today, which made me get out Self-Powerment, by Faye Mandell to see how it related.
Tonight over dinner we were talking about the Karpman Drama Triangle (wikipedia article, great bodyworker/drama triangle article) and it became apparent that we were using the word "judgment" in at least two completely different ways.
Eventually I thought I might understand what he meant and we worked on creating a shared vocabulary. We went over some of the mapping/abstracting concepts from General Semantics, and I'm pretty sure that I can substitute "making a map" for "making a judgement" and mean what he meant.
Anyway, we got Steve involved, who likes the "menu" metaphor ("the menu is not the meal") and we somehow got onto a filing cabinet metaphor ("the filed notes are not the subject at hand"?).
By the time we were finished, we had forgotten what we needed a shared vocab to talk about...
...which was just as well as it was getting close to Dhamaal time.
Now, hours later, I think what we were to talk about was the Drama Triangle and its usefulness/limits as a model (or map, or file folder of notes) for thinking and talking about certain forms of relating... generally arguing & fighting :-)
Not that we've done much of that the past two days, or even longer. First we were just tired of processing so much. Lately we've just been doing our thing and being happy. The New Moon is on Monday, though, so who knows what changes the next few weeks will bring. I suppose I'd best start formulating my intentions for the coming cycle.
Posted by Josh A. at February 26, 2006 02:22 AM